Understanding Mediation: How It Works and How I Can Help
If you’re going through a divorce and feeling uncertain about mediation, you’re not alone. Many people aren’t sure how the process works — or how it could possibly help. Here’s what you need to know:
- Mediation is a structured but informal process that gives you both the opportunity to resolve issues in a respectful, solution-focused setting. My role as your mediator is to remain completely neutral. I don’t represent either party. What I do is guide the conversation, help clarify the issues, and keep the discussion moving toward workable, realistic outcomes.
- This process is built on the principle of self-determination — the foundation of all successful mediation. That means you control the outcome, not me, not your attorneys (if you choose to bring one), and not the court. My job is to facilitate discussion, not make decisions. You are empowered to reach informed agreements voluntarily, based on what works best for your unique family and future.
- Mediation is also a confidential process. What you discuss during mediation stays private and does not become part of the public court record. This allows both parties to speak more openly and work toward resolution without the pressure of litigation or a courtroom.
- As both a divorce attorney and a trained mediator with years of experience in resolving complex family law cases, I bring a unique perspective to the process. In mediation, I’m not acting as your lawyer — I’m your deal facilitator. That means I help you have the conversations you need in order to find common ground, reduce conflict, and resolve issues in a way that brings clarity and closure.
- You don’t have to come to mediation with everything figured out; that is what mediation is for. I’ll help you break big problems into smaller parts, ask the right questions, and explore creative solutions — even when things feel stuck or overwhelming.
- And if communication between you and the other party has been difficult, that’s okay — it’s actually quite common. Mediation often succeeds even when conflict levels are high. I’m trained to help guide those conversations constructively and keep the process on track.
- Whether you bring your attorney or not is entirely your choice. Either way, I’ll maintain a balanced and respectful process focused on helping the parties move forward.
- Mediation can help you reach agreements. The litmus test for settlement isn’t “Do I love it?” — it’s “Can I live with it?” When the answer is yes, you can close this chapter and begin the next with greater peace and certainty.
Next Step:
If you’re ready to give mediation a try, talk to the other party and see if they’re willing to participate. Once you both agree to move forward, simply call our office and schedule a session. Remember, you don’t need to have everything figured out in advance — just be willing to show up and work toward resolution.